on the fence - no one's side !

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it works! all i need to do to avoid uncomfortable argument with hubby is just a humble silent. Whenever hubby raise his voice for any reason i just have to :

1. listen to whatever he said,
2. nodded and say "hmmm.."
3. do not react or give any feedback unless requested
4. a big no no for backfiring him
5. reply questions with smiles and never ever 'mengungkit'
6. lower my voice.
   

there are no reason to make him mad, i found out that men are sensitive creature. When they feel sad and angry, they'll never speak of that to the wife. And wife, you have to understand their gestures, and avoid anything that would possibly trigger the already loaded gun. They're so sensitive that you can't even ask why or what's with the long face. Really, they're not mad at you, and they do not loose interest on you, it is just something else, something in the office maybe, but sensitivity has swore them not to share it, and to only unload the anger when triggered by any other unrelated and insignificant tiny issues.

well, that is something unacceptable a few years back when i first entitled as wife. But true enough what wise people said, you learn most from experiences. I begin to accept that men are men, and are martian (from Mars !!) to us women. They react and think differently, and comparing men to women for me is like comparing roti canai to fruit salad! two very different dishes !

Still, no offence but men are sensitive creatures.. :) They just hide it under their big chest.